“DO YOU THINK HE COULD BE A HOMOSEXUAL? HE DOESN’T WANT TO DO IT AS MUCH WITH ME ANYMORE.”
ANSWER: No. Absolutely not. If your feelings about this are based on sexual interest or desire, then the issue of gender is irrelevant. Male or female homosexuals have the same range of feelings and desires as anyone, may or may not want a lot or a little sexual relationship with the same or the opposite sex, and have as much healthy and unhealthy sex, as many problems and sexual joys, as anyone else. We must learn to stop labeling people or ourselves by what we do sexually. This is a basic super marital sex rule. The homosexual couples I have treated sometimes report the reverse concern, that diminishing interest on the part of one partner may mean that he or she is a “latent heterosexual.” It is one’s feelings, general hot or cold lifestyle, overall health, values, morals, fears, hopes, and relationship status that affects interest, desire, and arousal, not gender identity.
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